Trust

A highly sought after commodity. Just ask anyone whose trust has been betrayed one way or another or who's been disappointed before.

Even between people who love each other dearly, there are always trust issues to work on. Here are some trust issues I face:

1. I find it hard to trust someone fully with a fretful baby when I've seen them rattle a bottle in a baby's mouth previously.

2. I can't trust someone who's told her own child that she's given up on her.

3. I can't trust someone who's taken out her frustrations on her child while using a belt to beat her and then fucking forgets all about it years later.

4. I can't trust someone who treasures saving money/ convenience over values or quality or my child.

5. I'm unwilling to trust someone who tells me they support breastfeeding but on the side, criticizes children who are nursed over a year and labels them mamby pamby. I think these people need to grow up and deal with their insecurities or jealousy over the mother-child bond that's IMO impossible to break.

6. It's also hard to trust someone who tells me long term goals are more important, but judges the child's behavior by how long the child can sit still and shut up.

Yes, I mean you, you know who you are. Actually just 2 people lar.

I'm sure people also have trust issues with me. Oh well, isn't all fun?

Recurring mistakes

Let this list serve as a reminder of mistakes not to commit. I heard about them happening to baby elephant while I was at work or observed them happening while I was far away from the scene and carrying Chris.

1. Be absent from the bedroom while the child is napping, so that he rolls off the bed onto his head.

2. While the child is running into the path of another swinging on the swing, and you are only 2 metres from the child, merely shout and not take a single step to physically protect the child.

3. When you are 1 metre from the child, and the child runs to an area where the floor is wet and slippery, merely gasp while watching the child as he slips on his head.

4. Leave the child to play on his own while sorting out your receipts. Receipts that have no bearing whatsoever on your tax or retirement plans. Meaning they are utterly useless.

5. Tile your house and toilet floors with very slippery tiles. More time is wasted trying to dry them thoroughly all the time and preventing the child from entering the toilet the entire day. I don't give a rat's ass if they're sparkly clean because you probably use a toothbrush to brush them. They are accidents waiting to happen!

6. After the child has been scolded by a parent, continue to nag at the child and not let the issue rest.

This list makes me exhausted and even more angsty. Roar!!!!